For those of you who don't know, we have just moved into our new house. Well, it is our well loved, slightly used home that we are already having to update a little. We moved in on Friday and thanks to our wonderful family and friends, were able to squeeze most of our stuff into the huge truck in one load! For a few days we then lived out of and around a myriad of boxes, which we figured would last for a while. However, we discovered that we had some friends join us in the house and are having it treated so they will go away. Luckily, we again had some incredible family members (a BIG thank you to Mom and Pop Ash and Mom Head) who came over and helped us get things prepard! With all of this moving and such life has been flying by and the adoption process hasn't gotten very far.
I am proud to say however that I have sent some paperwork back to CHI that they have been asking for. I sent off for our birth certificates, and we have appointments to take care of our physicals. So things have begun to pick up a little. We are using Family Lutheran Services here in town to conduct our homestudy, and I'm really hoping our first visit with the social worker will be before the end of the month. Since our goal is to get our dossier to China by the first of December, we are starting to push the envelope, so to speak. Actually, all will be well as long as nothing takes longer as it is "supposed to". :) But, as one of our friends has said, don't despise the things that stall the process, you will get the child you were meant to have.
In the meantime I've been searching the internet, learning about others that have adopted, and the adoption community, Chinese culture, etc. Theres so much to learn, and the first thing I've learned was that I know very little. Things that we may so or do with the best of intentions can be offensive to others. Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those in the "PC" camp who walk on eggshells around everyone making sure I never offend anyone, because if we did that we would never open our mouths. To a point , I believe, people need to not be so quick to get offended, especially when the person making the comment or action did have good intentions. However, there is wisdom in trying to understand others for the purpose of trying to not be offensive if possible.
Tony and I have been talking about our future child and what is happening now. Most likely the mother is pregnant and the baby will be born in the next few months. We have been praying for the mother, assuming that the decision to give up her child will be a difficult one, especially with the knowledge that she will never know if she will be safe, or ever know of her where abouts as she grows up. I can't imagine the pain a mother goes through, not being able to be with her child. As much difficulty as waiting for biological children has been, I don't believe it could compare to what these women go through. We also are praying for the baby (or babies) that they will be safe and healthy and that whatever their journey is to us, that it will be one that brings them into caring arms to watch over them until we can meet them. It's strange, but this journey is one that is filled with so much joy, as well as sorrow. It's strange how we can already be so connected to little ones we don't even know yet.
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